It is almost Mother’s Day, and although the holiday has been extremely commercialized, setting a day aside to heap praise and love on our moms seems like the absolute minimum we can do for the ones who brought us into this world. After all, where would we be without our moms?
Yet for many men, knowing what to give, say, or do for their mothers (or the mother figures in their lives) on this special day can be intimidating, which often times leads to impersonal gifts or possibly nothing except a brief phone call.
Let’s fix that that this year.
The concept of Mother’s Day can be traced all the way back to ancient Greek and Roman festivals, which celebrated their “Mother of Gods.” The early Christian church also celebrated a “Mother Sunday” every year.
But the foundation of what we currently celebrate was started by Anna Jarvis in the early 1900s. Anna wanted to honor her late mother, Ann, who spent much of her life working to unify families after the Civil War.
Anna developed the idea after organizing a special day to remember her mother, and she started the discussion of a national day to celebrate all mothers in the country. The next year, in 1908, her local church celebrated the first official Mother’s Day in the country.
Every year the holiday grew until 1914 when President Woodrow Wilson made it a national holiday. Interestingly, Anna Jarvis eventually spent her efforts trying to end Mother’s Day, as she thought it had become over-commercialized, and she later stated that she was sorry she had ever started Mother’s Day.
If Mother’s Day has become too commercialized, what is at the core of the day that can make it truly memorable for your mom?
Most moms just want to be around their kids on Mother’s Day. They want to reminisce about past stories, remember the times they held their children in their arms, special family trips, and simpler times.
If you have the ability to spend time with your mom on this day, being there for her is the best possible place to start.
Here are a few other options to help your mom get the warm, sentimental feeling she wants:
Handwritten Letter: Phone calls are great, and being there in person is even better, but there is something special about a handwritten note that cannot be replicated in any other form. It will mean so much to her that you took the time to sit down, put pen to paper, and express in a permanent way what she means to you.
Don’t just sign your name to the bottom of a mass-produced card, take the time to express yourself in your own words. Write her the kind of note she will take back out and read to remind herself how much she is loved. If Indelible Cards can make this easier for you, we would love to assist.
Meal: There will be plenty of Mother’s Day brunch and lunch establishments fighting for your hard-earned money, and if that is something that your mom would appreciate and won’t break your bank, then go ahead and make your reservations now. However, there are many other great ways to have a meal with your mom that could be very special.
The first key to a successful meal is to make sure your mom doesn’t do all the work!
Make a meal for her that she loves or cook a meal that reminds you of your childhood and would tap into the sentimental and reminiscing importance of the day. If you have children of your own, involve them in the food preparation and service.
It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to be memorable.
Gifts: Just like Mother’s Day lunch, gifts can span many different price points. Remember that your mom would never want you to buy her something that you can’t afford. Make sure whatever you get her fits into your budget.
A framed photo of the two of you or the grandkids is always loved. Getting her something that she has always wanted, but would never buy for herself, can be a great route to take.
Don’t be intimidated by Mother’s Day and don’t buy into the commercialization of this important holiday. Simply think of a way to show your mom, or whatever mother figure is in your life, how much you care about and are thankful for her.
Putting a few minutes of thought into the day will go a long way to make it special for the woman who spent her life raising you.